Let's Talk About Sex

 

Ok,  so I haven’t been plugged into the Zaadzsphere for the last week  as the last few blogs I’ve been working on have been a little time consuming. Seems that this latest blog needed some research that, well, just had to be done. LOL

 
The last two blogs were a definite shift into the world of the testosterone driven male with the Worlds fastest Car and The Movie 300. So I thought jokingly that maybe the next blog should probably be about sex to help balance or better understand the principal male sex hormone and the anabolic steroid, testosterone. A hormone the adult male produces twenty to thirty times more of then that an adult female. I couldn’t help but be reminded of the famous quote by Ken Wilbur when speaking of testosterone when he wrote in “A Brief History of Everything.”

 

 

 “I don't mean to be crude, but it appears that testosterone
basically has two, and only two major drives: fuck it or kill it.”

 

I wasn’t taking the thought seriously on writing on sex till soon after the thought I was given the April 23^rd issue of Forbes magazine with the title “Video Prophet."

 

The story is how the company Akamai is building the Infinite Internet to deliver anything digital by making some computers smarter and more equal to than others. There chief scientist, MIT professor Tom Leighton formulated this would allow the net to grow infinitely large without breaking down. Pretty cool right…?....and your asking “what does that have to do with sex?

 I hear ya… so when I am reading Forbes, a magazine I rarely (Once every 6 months in a dentist office.) read and I looking inside the first page I see is a page entitled THOUGHTS On the Business Life.  Loving quotes I stopped to read only to find that all but one of the 20 quotes listed is about sex. So I basically kept reading ….. lol

 
My favorite quote was Marlene Dietrich’s,

“Sex in America is an obsession.
In other parts of the world it is a fact.”

 

 

 

So I determined right then and there that sure, why not write a blog about sex?   I guess that just means I’ll have to invest a little time and energy and do a little research on sexual energy, passion, obsession, lust, envy and love.... Damn it! I hate it when that happens!

 As we all know, sexual energy can be said to be the single most potent force within us that triggers and affects just about every part of our psyche and drives us to many of our decisions. No one knows this better than the corporate world. Lets face it, sex sells with triggers that tap into the sexual psyche as we unconsciously identify the desire with the product being offered. Who knew that Adidas sport shoes would get me laid? I mean even Nike says, “Just Do it!

 Getting back to Ken’s quote,

 Fuck it or kill is now known by the acronym FIKI as Sean O’Reilly cites Wilber in his book How to Manage Your Dick. "Dick" is actually an acronym that stands for Dimensionally Interactive Cyber Kinetics. In the book he attempts to explain why men tend to be more impulsive than women and writes,

 

 

I think that succinctly sums up it and clarifies that sexual energy in mutual harmony with a partner is not only healthy, but damn fun too!

 Woody Allen gives us his hilarious summation,

“Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for
the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”

 

 

 

                                                                                    
 

 The power of sexual energy in our arousal that we sometimes refer to as being “Turned On” when you sense the chemistry in another’s “Vibe” is just basic to our human nature. Some try to rationalize this hard wiring as some dark force within as if to place horns on the “horny” feeling. With men, the story of testosterone and it’s effects gets a humorous look as told by Lev Yilmaz in his “Tales of mere Existence” series titled, Horny. Give it a look for a laugh on men’s thoughts.

 

 

 Misrepresenting the essence of sex by placing “rules” on it when its very function drives us to be fruitful to enjoy a dynamic life with passion and love takes away the essence of its meaning.  It reminds me of what a co-worker displaced from New Orleans by Katrina told me tonight, “In Texas there are so many rules, hell in New Orleans we just jump around and do shit.” Sex is like that, you just let go and do what feels good.
 

FEEL
Robbie Williams

 According to Taoist belief, energy and momentum are the sources of all life as seen in the Yin and Yang (male and female energy). In Taoism the idea is to “integrate the two most powerful healing forces in the world: real love and sexual energy,” as Taoists understand sexuality to be “the primary source of power behind love.”

 

 

 The Tao teaches that happiness has nothing to do with material wealth, but with inner peace as a result of universal love. Ever notice happy people are those who are most loved and the unhappy are almost always the loneliest? Recent studies suggest that up to 40 percent of people who are rejected in love slip into clinical depression.

 In the Taoist culture, jing chi is desire, passion, sexual energy or life energy. The world’s religious cultures all have this concept of  “chi” in one form or another. We have  Prana (Sanskrit),  Ki (Japanese), Lung (Tibetan), Neyatoneyah (Lakota Sioux), Num (Kalahari Kung), and Ruach (Hebrew) and so forth.

  It’s this “Chi” or energy that seems to drive us to taking action about those things we care about most. Whether it’s friends, family, work, a social cause or sex, we’re all driven by the pain/pleasure principal to seek out that which is fulfilling and gives us joy and peace in our lives.

 

 

“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, its' the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it's almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you're a part of them.”

“What is passion? It is surely the becoming of a person. Are we not, for most of our lives, marking time? Most of our being is at rest, unlived. In passion, the body and the spirit seek expression outside of self. Passion is all that is other from self. Sex is only interesting when it releases passion. The more extreme and the more expressed that passion is, the more unbearable does life seem without it. It reminds us that if passion dies or is denied, we are partly dead and that soon, come what may, we will be wholly so.” - John Boorman

  The void one feels in their life can be temporarily satisfied with sex, but more completely in the union of two who find the emptiness of their being in the fulfillment of the other. And that’s really what Tantic Sex is all about in finding the VIRtue in VIRilty.

 Tantric is derived from a Sanskrit word meaning to "weave" or "extend," and was originally practiced by Tibetan, Chinese, and Indian Buddhists as a sacred act in uniting the spirit with the flesh to attain enlightenment.

 

To do this, Tantric teaches that you must learn how to purify the body and create a "sacred space" for lovemaking, breathe correctly, heal inhibitions, and harmonize the "inner man and inner woman."

  According to Tantric philosophy, like the Taoist, energy flows throughout the body and it is this energy that connects the body's "chakras," or energy centers at the base of the spine, the genitals, the stomach, the throat, the forehead, and the crown of the head.

 

 
 These spiraling energy centers or vortexes can be opened, closed, spin clockwise or counterclockwise, As Sean O’Reilly says in his book,

"As a human being has only a certain amount of spiritual energy, or Chi, it is very important that his energy go towards activities that raise the level of non-locality in one's thoughts. The Seven Chakras of the Hindu religion serve as a useful tool to observe the flow of Chi. Dick Management encourages activities like meditation, prayer, or abstinence from masturbation because they reduce the amount of energy that is wasted at lower Chakras. Energy not used in the lower Chakras is thus made available for the higher Chakras."

 

 

By reaching high sexual arousal, those who practice tantric sex, "open up the chakras," or move the energy up through these physical channels to create a sensation of oneness and ecstasy. Ken Wilbur explains a little of this in the following clip.

 

 

I hope to write more on this because we haven’t even begun to scratch the surface, but maybe I just find the topic fun to write about. But I do know that given all the drama and intensity surrounding the whole experience of romantic fulfillment; it still is a desire that leads to suffering as Buddha declares in the Four Noble Truths. It is the hard wiring of the FIKI impulses that are triggered so easily that lead us to the idea that as Anne Cumming said.

  But I do feel that the infinite is possible in creating a sensation of oneness and ecstasy as Ken says so well of his wife who was soon diagnosed with cancer after their marriage in Grace and Grit,

 

 

 
 

 

 

 P.S.

For those who were wondering what the only quote
was of the sex quotes in the Forbes issue,

          
“Be still and know that I am God.”

DEO